Your Survival is Valid.
CW: rape & sexual assault in multiple circumstances
You. Your survival is valid. If you told no one. If you told everyone.
If it happened when you were a child. If it happened yesterday. If it happened 20 years ago. If it happens next week. You are valid and you are doing the right thing for yourself, no matter what that is.
If you reported it to the police instantly. If you waited a year. If you went forward with your case. If you dropped the case. If the police let you down and sprinkled seeds of guilt in your mind. If the police helped you. If the police interrogated you in interviews. If you didn’t go to the Doctors. If you went to the Doctors and they invalidated you. If you are on medication. If you are disabled (physically or mentally). If it was a friend. If you initiated the intimacy. If the court case was too much. If they were found ‘innocent’ by the court. If they didn’t get prosecuted. If they are still in your life. If you were drunk. If you were high. If you were young. If you were out late. If you walked home alone. If you were wearing a certain type of clothing. If you are queer. If you loved them. If you still love them. If you can’t remember everything. If you said yes at first. If you said yes later on. If you are involved in kink. If you’re involved in BDSM. If no one believes you. If you don’t believe yourself. If you have recovered. If you haven’t confronted it. If you have had therapy. If you haven’t had therapy. If you are angry. If you are so, incredibly, incomprehensibly angry. If you have forgiven your abuser. If you haven’t forgiven your abuser. If you never want to forgive your abuser. If you have repressed it. If you know other people who have had ‘worse’ things happen to them. If it’s ‘something that happens to everyone’. If you have hurt people too. If you are trans. If you are a man. If you are a woman. If you are gender-non-conforming. If you had to do certain things to escape the attack. If you fought. If you ran away. If you froze. If you are not surviving.
If you are all of the above. Some of the above. None of the above.
You are valid. Your survival is valid and no one can tell you that you are experiencing your truth wrong. You are your only embodiment. I see you even if you never show people your pain. I hear you, even if you never say a word to anyone. I believe you, in whatever way you choose to survive.
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